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[thoreau]

I know I probably say it every weekend but I just had the most romantic day with Dave!

He was z'ing with Miss Kate this morning - and I ran up to the store and grabbed up the fixings for homemade croissant tomato ham and egg sandwiches. (not as "clean" as the ones we get at LaBoulange but just as tasty!) The whole house smelled of fresh croissants, Kona coffee (duh!) and eggs and ham. They were lovely!

We then walked across town for the 1125am matinee of "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button" after being recommended by bootedintexas and mrdreamjeans.

First I need to say how much I capital L - LOVE the new Sundance Theater in the Kabuki building in Japantown. It is the most comfortable luxurious movie theater I've ever attended a movie at. I'd hope other theaters would model after their redesigned ideas. Plush seats, less seats with more space - and cuddly couple seats. We love that theater!

As for the movie itself? Well - I can't say that I watched and saw Oscar-caliber performances - but I thought the story was very entertaining and romantic and sweet. The pacing though ran infuriatingly slow in a few places - where even David agreed we wanted to scream at the screen "Get on with already - for chrissakes" - particularly one scene thats probably a beautiful paragraph in F. Scott Fitzgerald's short story - but made for an agonizing few minutes in the film. It was lushly, beautifully filmed - I admired the set design, costumes and setting of the story very much. I wasn't too hot on seeing at the theater though - I'm glad that Drew and Neil's recommends (plus other reviews) were good enough for Dave to encourage us to go anyways.

David is funny when we come out of movies; he doesn't want to discuss them. He says "it took years to make that movie - it will take me at least a few days to decide on what I thought." - so we walked in the afternoon sun (it was 65 here today in San Francisco and breathtakingly gorgeous) We came back to find the apartment was getting warmed up from the sun so we took advantage of the warmth and took a snuggly naked nap in the sunshine. Miss Kate even joined the game - sprawling out on the carpet and napping in the sunlight.

After a quick shower - we got up and went to dinner - and we had a lovely chat about "would we ever want to live together." I am very comfortable in our relationship as it is - with our different weekends here or there. I told him that I didn't feel any urgency for us to live together as nice as that might be. He said he didn't think it was practical if I continued working in downtown San Francisco. I told him that I might enjoy working on my writing on my laptop on CalTrain - but that the 45 minutes to an hour commute would change my life alot - not to mention what would I do on chorus nights and other events in the city. He said that he'd love to come home to my cooking everynight - gosh he's a charmer! (chortle)

We were talking about it because (believe it or not) - my year lease is up here in a little over three months. I think I'll be staying here in SF - and going month-to-month on the apartment. Ive been applying at different university web departments in the south bay (San Jose State, Stanford, etc.) at any available openings for a few months now. I have a string of rejection letters - but I got my job back at Boise State with perseverance and patience. I'd love to work in higher education again. (particularly if a lower rate on finishing my masters was part of the deal) So life changes - and we roll as it goes. Dave and I are more in love these days than ever.

In the last few weeks we've talked about issues and ideas and things that I've never really thought of discussing with a boyfriend - personal stuff - that has brought us even closer. So I have no rush to "get to" another place in our relationship - because where we are now makes me happier than I've been in a very very long time. Our first anniversary is March 14th - and that we're getting to it and hitting a new stride feels really good to me. I've found someone that encourages me, supports me to everything that I am without exception. and I am constantly trying to support his Ubermath career and his passions around dancing and his research outside of work. The way he lights up when we talk about work tells me he appreciates it so much. (even if he does have to think about how to present his theoretical study and scientific works in a way I can try and really understand) Let me tell you folks - he's so brilliant it is just amazing. and so humble and shy about it too.

As bearfuz remarked a few months back - David and I are really good for one another. and day to day - that's all that is really important.

Comments

[timzilla.livejournal.com]

I have been thinking about seeing "The Curious Case of Forrest Gump." But something tells me I might feel as if I had seen it before.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't compare the two at all. Forrest Gump was full of gimicks placing him in different places in history - this is a love story between two people who age different directions. I had heard other people comparing the two - but I didn't see anything that would make me think of forrest gump.I thought this story was pretty unique actually. (but three hours was a tad long and emotional scenes were replayed several times to make a point - over and over - with different characters.

[holy13nation.livejournal.com]

Someone else who doesn't like to discuss films the moment they leave the cinema.
I confess I never go to the cinema anymore and, in fact, rarely even watch films on dvd. But in the days when I did I found it difficult to talk about a film just after I had seen it.
Perhaps this was due to my almost always being disappointed with what I saw.
However, I wouldnt want to make that judgement hastily.
Stuff had to settle first.
Percolate.

[cuyahogarvr.livejournal.com]

"I've found someone that encourages me, supports me to everything that I am without exception. and I am constantly trying to support his Ubermath career and his passions around dancing and his research outside of work."

This speaks VOLUMES about your relationship! YAY!

[abqdan.livejournal.com]

Wow! A year already! I recall the posts about the apartment search - I think there was one on Treasure Island, and another one with great views... and then finally you found this one. I figured you'd live there forever!!

When I lived in San Jose, my commute varied from 20 to 45 minutes, depending on the traffic. I now have a 10 minute commute, door to door... and could NEVER go back to a long commute again. It stole so much of my time; though as you say, you could be productive on the train.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

I'm perfectly happy here in the Muffin Penthouse - and will live month-to-month with no problems or issues. :) We'll see where the rest of the year leads. I think Dave is prolly right - I'd dislike the commute long term. It also begs the question - where would my gym routine fall? would I have to start working out at lunch hour to fit it in? (its important!) we'll see how it all shakes out. There are no plans for anyone to move anywhere at this point. Dave owns his home outright though - and isn't thinking that he'd move anywhere. It's just such a good situation for him personally. and he's worked hard to get there. :)

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

superyay! :)

We were so glad to meet and go hiking with Brian on Saturday! :) what a sweet, articulate, funny man. :)

[cuyahogarvr.livejournal.com]

The amazing thing about Brian is he is so like my ex in so many ways. All of my children and several of my very good friends pointed this out on meeting him for the first time. I mean, I'm talking word usage, enunciation, mannerisms and sense of humor. The BIG difference is what I quoted from you above. WE ALL accept each other, encourage each other and love each other unconditionally. It's really still quite amazing to me.

[septimuswarren.livejournal.com]

What a lovely post. Thanks for writing so openly and honestly about this. Talking about living together is not a topic to be taken lightly. And his comment about coming to your cooking. Well, it just doesn't get much better than that.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

I've been meaning to call you and get you caught up on some of this stuff and discussion. Sorry you had to read it on LJ first.

[quirkstreet.livejournal.com]

What you say about your relationship? I could not be happier for you. smooch!

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

and what's cool? is if Dave had a blog - while not quite as mushygushy as my text - he'd say pretty much the same thing. Because I mean, really - who can outdo me in the mushygushy department? Okay - perhaps tonethebone but he's a rare exception.

[quirkstreet.livejournal.com]

What's interesting to me is how much that comes through, not having met Dave and seeing for myself, not having a blog of his to compare with. What comes through is that there is a mutuality between you that was lacking in Those Who Shall Remain Nameless.

I feel as though you've become *less* mushygushy ... and happier. Sure, you are still the Queen Of Stating It BIG, but you have such better things to put the wonderful Robert ribbons and bows on.

It's quite noticeable. It feels real in a way it didn't in the past. And that's what makes me happy for you.

[joebehrsandiego.livejournal.com]

I couldn't have said it better myself. :>)