celebrating anniversaries and stuff.. yo!

[thoreau]

Okay blogosphere.... Here is a question from my boyfriend, the incredibly adorable (yet stubborn) Dr. Goldberg. I told him I was happy to be celebrating our first six months together this weekend - which he responded with "Well that all depends - perhaps we can argue about when our anniversary really is - - - this weekend is the sixth month anniversary of us meeting in the hottub at Tom's house.


March 8, 2008: Hot Tub Party at Tom's... (Me on the left, David on the right)

and NEXT weekend is the anniversary of our first date/sleepover


March 15, 2008: That first breakfast together as a couple glow...

I (being eager to celebrate for any reason) suggest celebrating this weekend - six months from when we met - he debunks this theory and says that NEXT weekend is our anniversary - the anniversary of our first date.

Now - I realize before asking - that six month anniversaries mean a whole lot less than say decades - - I get that. but - just for the sake of discussion.....

ok - - blogosphere... which is it?

[Poll #1253807]

Comments

[excessor.livejournal.com]

You didn't have an option to do both.

[jhitchin.livejournal.com]

I voted "day you met" because that's how Greg and I do it. We met July 19th, 1998 and have been together exclusively since then. We decided that that date works as well as any other. :-)

[pagerbear.livejournal.com]

I'm not voting, because you should do what you want.

We use our first date, but I wouldn't dare tell you to do that.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

oh its just for fun - I told him we'd celebrate both. :) LOL!

[bruinwi.livejournal.com]

My partner and I met in June of '75; we didn't sleep together until August of that year, and didn't move in together until Jan. 1 of '77.

I mark New Year's Day as our anniversary date, and it's been over 31 years.

[billeyler.livejournal.com]

Whatever "it" is, you should both agree on it. I hear there is one LJ couple that celebrates 4 different anniversaries.

[pdsexton.livejournal.com]

I agree with excessor, both should definitely be an option. Since we gay folk outside of CA don't have marriage anniversaries yet, I've always celebrated the "met" anniversary, and honestly, though usually the met date and the "other stuff" date are usually the same for me. What can I say...I'm a giver, or is that taker??

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

"I'm a giver, or is that taker??"

why settle for one or the other.....

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

that is true. folks have already answered the poll so I can't alter it.

[truthfeather.livejournal.com]

Speaking from a formal etiquette perspective a) the date used is the date the couple identifies to the larger community as when they recognized that they wanted to pursue a more intimate relationship. and b) Etiquette has no comment on whatever personal anniversaries a couple wishes to celebrate. :P

I'm glad for you both.

[grizzlyzone.livejournal.com]

Bob, if you had "put out" on the first date in the hot tub, you wouldn't be having this problem!

[bukephalus.livejournal.com]

IAWTC. It doesn't matter, as long as you choose one and stick with it.

Personally, I'm not a fan of less-than-a-year anniversaries. I dated a guy who celebrated monthly anniversaries because, as he said, "it's the only kind of anniversary some couples will ever have." How true.

[billeyler.livejournal.com]

In my 1995-1997 relationship, the other person started off on the wrong foot by giving me lavish gifts at month one, then two, then three. By month four, I'd had it and insisted he stop that!

Happily, I only celebrate one anniversary a year now with my partner, based on our first date!

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

as I said in my post - its a silly silly thing to be debating -and we're both doing it lightheartedly. :) and it was his suggestion to pose the question on the blog....

[badrobot68.livejournal.com]

Well AJ and I are celebrating the anniversary of our first real date. We had known each other for several months before that, but as of Sept. 12th we were officially "dating", and next week makes a whole year. :)

[tinman11201.livejournal.com]

Jim and I plan to celebrate the anniversary of our first date (October 20th), although I always remember the day we met as just as important, which was October 5th. Especially since we met through an LJ posted movie night to see Blade Runner Director's Cut at the Ziegfeld Theater in NYC.

[ohwolfman.livejournal.com]

We celebrate from the night of the first blowjob.

That will be 25 years ago this coming March.

[grizzlyzone.livejournal.com]

I remember the day I got my second letter from Woody, because that was the day Hurricane Andrew made landfall in South Florida, and it's easy to look up.

I also remember the say I "proposed", as it's the day between our birthdays. Mine's the 12th, his is the 14th.

Everything else is a wash.

[cuyahogarvr.livejournal.com]

My ex of 15 years and I always argued about this. He always insisted we should say our "anniversary" was the day we met. Keep in mind, the day we met was a gay-father's Christmas pot-luck party with about two dozen guys. As we were leaving, the guy that I was dating at the time introduced us. (and warned me about him - ohhhh, I should have listened). Anyway, the ole' hetero brainwashing was too strong for me because I insisted our anniversary was the day I moved in - just like the straights do it.
Now, we celebrate the day/weekend we met, the day they proposed (see icon), and soon, the day I moved in.
Hey, we even have three anniversaries!

[mt-yvr.livejournal.com]

Our date was determined in a highly romantic fashion.

Coin toss.

We'd known each other for a couple of years as platonic friends, went out drinking one night and woke up the next day naked, screwing. (awwww) We started dating.

But there were sooo many dates.

I took out a piece of paper, made 12 boxes, put the months down on each, threw a coin in the air. Landed on September. Got out a calendar of September, threw the coin in the air again... and it landed on the 2nd.

Ta DAAAAAA.




No really. Feel the romance.

[quirkstreet.livejournal.com]

Alan and I celebrate the night we first slept together. And it was just sleeping. After a lot of talking and getting to know each other.

[bluebear2.livejournal.com]

From the day you get married.

[paulintoronto.livejournal.com]

My Bob and I celebrate our anniversary on New Year's Eve. That wasn't the day we met, nor our first date, but rather the day when we both sort of agreed that we were seriously involved with each other. I moved in about 6 months later.

[jwg.livejournal.com]

We use the day we first slept together as our anniversary date.

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

Or just add even more anniversaries and drive your partner crazy. ;-)

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

thats your job...

Don't Ask Me

[major7.livejournal.com]

We have the anniversary we moved in together (September 21, 1997)
and when we first *met* (Fall, 1996)
and when I first started weaving my web in which he would forever become entrapped (Jan. 1, 1997)

So, we've been together somewhere between 10 and 12 years.

Honestly????

[sfkev.livejournal.com]

In my relationships (all 3,257), it has always been the first time we met...but that was also the first time we had sex and fucked like bunnies made love...

See?! A win-win situation!

[carytown.livejournal.com]

Tough question for us. We actually didn't like each other the first time we met. We fell in love after being "forced" together in a lab class in university. Our anniversary is actually a date that was set by a friend of ours. *G*

[paterson-si.livejournal.com]

no problem for me.... meeting and "meating" happend on the same day. :)

[bibliocub.livejournal.com]

We have a lot of dates. The day we met, the next day when we first fucked, the day he tracked me down in Chicago, the day we first started "dating", the night we decided I would move in, the day I actually did, our Canadian wedding date and now our upcoming California date, Nov. 3! We recognize each date, but for simplicity sake, we have gone with the Canadian date. But with our California date, settled today!, we will just have to celebrate both!

[chrisglass.livejournal.com]

I say celebrate whenever you can.

[airporter.livejournal.com]

I'm on the other end of the spectrum here - I tend to celebrate whenever the moment feels right, especially as I'm horrible (HORRIBLE) at remembering dates. Hear "I like/adore/love you" from me, take the gift (that seemed just right to my mind) and smile, k?

In my ideal world? I'd be celebrating both dates because my crappy date memory and romantic brain would somehow be in sync. Or is that out of sync? Serendipity would rule. :)

[hereticsoul.livejournal.com]

I voted to celebrate from the day you met, but confess I have ulterior motives for my vote. While I can't recall exactly when it was that I first saw or spoke to the new man in my life, I can tell you the date when I first spoke with him beyond the most meager social pleasantries and found the nerve to actually ask him out. It was August 14th. The first date, over coffee, did not take place until the following Saturday, August 16th.

The two dates are in such close proximity that you might well wonder why I care which date to choose. Well, the answer is very simple. If I peg the anniversary date on 8/14, then the exact 6-month mid-point between anniversaries is 2/14, or Valentine's Day.

[airporter.livejournal.com]

Nov. 3 in California, the Nov. 22 or 23 in BC?,

[osodecanela.livejournal.com]

We met the third Sunday of July, 1981, and that's the day we considered our relationship started. We got married this past July, on the third Sunday, just to be consistant. (The actual dates were the 7-19-81 and 7-20-08, but we always have and always will celebrate it on the 3rd Sunday of July.)

[jimwnyc.livejournal.com]

Why not celebrate them both???

My theory

[bearfuz.livejournal.com]

I think maybe he's got something special up his sleeve for next weekend, perhaps something that could *only* be done next weekend, which makes it his preferred anniversary, whether by circumstance or choice.

You can do something fun this weekend too, but trust David to make next weekend something extra-special... :-)

Just my theory. Or a fantasy. Or maybe just a story line that makes me smile. :-D

Honestly...

[philhasablog.livejournal.com]

...I'm disappointed.

Celebrate them both you ninny.

[bibliocub.livejournal.com]

It was Nov. 22, 2007 in BC. Beautiful day, lovely location (Mickael would know the exact location), great company. I hope you are available when we are back in BC to help celebrate our Canadian year anniversary.

Re: My theory

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

I like the way you think :)

[airporter.livejournal.com]

Oh, I think I'll be around. The following weekend is Fly-in with Bill and Anne, and I haven't seen Bill in years so I might even attend some of it this year. Of course, I'll likely have a house full of guests - it's a fly-in tradition. (Ask the man who's slept on my den floor one year.)

[kroyd.livejournal.com]

I believe you get too choose which ever one you want. If you can't agree then you have to compromise and celebrated the date half-way betseen the two events.
I wish you and David all the best. You're so cute together.

[anziulewicz.livejournal.com]

Whether you celebrate the anniversary of the day you met or the first date is naturally going to vary from person to person, since many couples may have actually "known" each other for a long time before getting serious about one another. On the other hand, my ex and I celebrated the day we first introduced to each other.

[bibliocub.livejournal.com]

Oh, I wasn't hinting for a space on your floor. We will be staying with Mickael and Carey or at a hotel. We just wanted to spend a little quality time with you while we were in Vancouver.

[airporter.livejournal.com]

Oh no, hon, I'm sorry. I didn't assume you were looking for space.

Really, the mention was more along the lines of "I'm around because that's part of what I do for fly-in!" Your lovely man slept on my floor one year because we had the space.

Of course, I put him to work on the Friday of the fly-in because my volunteers didn't show for the registration table. Between him and allanh, I had a wonderfully anal duo covering the desk while I went nuts for a couple of hours!

[bibliocub.livejournal.com]

If you want anal, you picked the right pair!

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

dear diary.....