Terry and Don

[thoreau]

Terry and Don at a previous IBR

I met Terry and Don at Folsom two years ago - what a wonderful pair; precisely what I'd like to imagine I would be like as I get older,,,,, still frisky as hell, still perverted - - still living life at 110 MPH.

Then Terry lost Don suddenly to a heart attack in January. They lived in the central valley - so Terry and I have been trading letters ever since, and making sure he knew he was being cared for.

I got a call from him last week saying that he wanted to come up to the city earlier than he had hotel reservations.... so tonight KateyDog and I will sleep on the floor and Terry will be our house guest.

I last saw Terry when they were in town last spring. It'll be great to see Terry and spend the evening chatting and giving him a place to stay. I'm sure Miss Kate and Terry will bond like nothing else.

I've been at that wierd "first (enter event here)" after losing someone close to me that I'd attend events with every year. It is a necessary part of the healing process - and the choice to keep living life completely.

It's not like offering someone a place to stay is this monumental life-altering thing - - but it'll be great to see him and lend my continuing support.

Comments

[tonethbone.livejournal.com]

Nice of you to do this

[audrabaudra.livejournal.com]

Obviously, so important for Terry to move through this world by going from friend to friend in these early days after loss. It's V-Day this weekend and all.

Miss Kate's company will be a balm for him, no doubt about it. It's great that he has you both.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

Miss Kate totally played a role. she's such a love.

[stebas.livejournal.com]

That's a nice thing. I was in the same situation losing someone and i surely can tell how much the support from friends, close and far, counted for me. Even with "normal" and "simple" things like giving hospitality for a night. Well done.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

He's such a lovely caring man - and I'm glad I got to spend time together with him. :) He's in for quite a year of changes... and he's putting on brave face - but solid support is going to do him wonders.

[stivalineri.livejournal.com]

I've always found that after about 6 weeks, the grieving becomes increasingly bleak and lonely, because your friends are carrying on, and you don't want to impose your sadness on them. It's really solid of you to be there for Terry now.

[low-fat-muffin.livejournal.com]

We had a lovely night of chatting and him telling me stories about Don - and also how frightening it is to be moving on. He's selling the home south of fresno and moving to Cathedral City (Palm Springs) to be closer to a network of retired friends. I'm happy for him to have such a tribe during a pretty intense transition.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

The right thing to do, my friend ... Enjoy the time with Terry.

[tatsf.livejournal.com]

Wow, I don't know them, but recognize them from events. This post actually brought tears to my eyes Robert. You're a good man. I hope Terry has as good a time as is possible, and he is surely lucky to have a friend like you.