anger management

[thoreau]

I have a friend who has some pretty untamed anger issues. His only response about 80% of the time is flat out - uncontrolled anger. Until this past weekend - I'd never had the anger directed squarely at me. He got angry and inappropriate - I thought perhaps when he calmed down he'd want to talk about it. I was wrong - asking to talk about it only created more anger and inappropriate behavior telling me he had nothing to apologize for and to please fuck off. One one hand - I feel it was the right thing to do (calling him on his shit) - on the other hand - knowing his anger and exciteability level - should I have waited? but I felt that if I mentioned it a week or two from now - it would be off his radar and he'd feel (like he apparently does) that he did nothing wrong and his anger eruption in front of all of his friends was acceptable. David thinks calling him on it was unnecessary - as everyone we were with were just as appalled by his behavior; and that he has to know that his uncontrolled anger keeps everyone at a distance and limits his likeability factor. I've been pretty upset by it all week long - as I work very hard, particularly with people I consider a close friend - to be accommodating, supportive and well, not angry.

how do you handle angry people in your life?